Per…. I still think about your loss almost every day. Your call to inform me is burned into my consciousness.

Strength brother!

Trevor

Per, Brenda & Beau,

We were deeply saddened to hear of Cary’s tragic passing. He sounds like a wonderful person. God give you comfort at this trying time.

Dearest Per,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Please accept my deepest sympathy for your tragic loss, and my hope that you have found the strength to help you through this difficult time.

Patrick McAneeley

Dear Brenda and Per,

We are so deeply saddened for the loss of your son. Our thoughts and prayers are with you now.

There are never adequate words to address the reversal of the natural order of things. Our daughter Rachel, a commerce colleague of Cary’s at Dalhousie was shaken to the core and True had to take the oppurtunity to consider the loss of his own brother. All of us reflected about the importance of each other. It is so maddening it takes such a tragedy to bring it home. Our prayers are with you.

Per and Brenda,

I just learned of your tragic loss from a mutual friend. I am so so sorry and my heart goes out to you both. My most sincere prayers and condolences go out to you at this difficult time.

Nancy Marano

Dear Brenda, my mom just called me tonite at work. I hadn’t heard anything. I have been crying all nite for you, your family and your precious Cary. We are heartsick for you and can’t imagine your pain. I don’t even know why, but I thought of you and your two boys just about 3 days ago, for some reason I knew may 2nd was his birthday. Please know we are praying for you and thinking of you. Love Suzanne and Bruce.

Kära Aspo,

så djupt tragiskt och svårt.

Jag känner med dig.

Kerstin

Per, Brenda and Family,

It was with the greatest of sadness that I learned of the loss of your son, Cary. Judy and I also have a nineteen year old boy, so the tragic loss of Cary made us all pause in a moment of reflection and appreciation. Although we are far away in body, know that we are right beside you in spirit. Please accept our deepest condolences during this time of great sadness. Our hearts extend to you and your entire family.

Sincerely yours,

James Porteous

Brenda –

Sending you warm thoughts and sympathy for your loss. Words cannot express feelings, other than to say I am thinking of you at this time.

I saw the obit in the paper – strange as I never read them – and thought it was so sad that one so young has passed so soon. It was only when Josef also sent me the info did I connect that this was your Cary. He sounds like he was a wonderful person, and as he is your son, there is no other way he could be.

May you receive comfort from the love and support of your family and friends.

Susan

Per med familj

Det var med bestörtning jag hörde vad som hänt er pojke.

Vi känner så mycket med er i denna stund och vi vet hur svårt det är både förstå och acceptera. Sorgen är oändlig

och kärleken tar aldrig slut.

Mina tankar går tillbaka till din fina hälsning när Sven dog för tio år sedan.

Du är alltid.

Och jag glömmer aldrig när ni kom över till Gotland och vi vandrade på stranden när barnen var små.

Fina minnen. MInnen att vårda ömt.

Per,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,

Debbie Vandelaar

Dear Per, Brenda and Beau, My heart breaks for you. Brenda and Beau, you don’t know me, but I have worked with Per in the film industry. I want to pass on my condolences and prayers. This is a hurt that goes beyond words.

Joanne

Per, Brenda & Beau

I was very sad to hear of Cary’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kära Per.

Det var en chock att höra, vad som hänt Er kära son Cary.

Vi sänder Dig och Din familj vårt djupa beklagande.

Om och Margareta Malik.

Dear Per,

I was saddened to hear the news of your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

Trust the love you feel and the strength you find.

Teryl

Per and Brenda,

We are truly sorry to hear Cary’s accident. Please accept our deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time.

Brenda, Per, and Beau,

I was incredibly saddened to hear about Cary. I had the great fortune of knowing him since grade 4 and had always admired his infectious personality.

My condolences to you and your family.

Tallia Chau

Per – I am so deeply sorry for your loss. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Jack Stuart

Brenda & Beau,

I am very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family during this difficult time.

Sincerely,

Maiya Brady

Per

My condolences to you and your family on the tragic loss of your son Cary. You are all in my thoughts.

Carey Toner

Per,

My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. My deepest sympathy,

Your Friend,

Oli

Per, It was with great sadness that we read in the paper today of your most beloved son’s passing. Our hearts go out to you all and we will keep you in our prayers and thoughts.

Your friend

Pete Reynolds

Brenda, Per and Beau,

I was saddened to hear of the sudden and tragic death of Cary. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time of sorrow and loss.

My memory of Cary at the Scarboro Preschool was of a quiet, self-confident and happy young boy. I shall always remember him.

I hope that you will find the comfort and support of family and friends.

With deepest sympathy,

Ginny O’Brien-Kelly

Per

I never knew your son, but I know you and I can only imagine Cary had the same love of life as you do. I am extremely saddened by this unfortunate and tragic event and please know my thoughts are with you and your family during this trying time.

Thinking of you,

Raluca

Your in our thoughts and forever in our hearts, sincere condolences

Mason & Ken (Wellesley)

Late last night, I heard about your tragic loss through our soccer coach’s wife and have been deeply moved by your sudden loss. Please accept our condolences, and be assured of our prayers. May God comfort you and bring you hope when all other words fail.

Marlene

Vancouver, BC

I’m so sorry for your loss. I new him through IATSE. Great kid, I always liked seeing him and working with him.

Per, Brenda and Beau,

Very sorry to hear of your son Cary’s tragic passing. Although we did not know him our thoughts and prayers are with your family. Our son Keeland played soccer with Beau who we greatly enjoyed watching and was very saddened to hear of your loss.

The Poffenroth’s

Beau, Per & Brenda,

I am so sorry for your tremendous loss! What a difficult task lies ahead of you, having to somehow adjust to life without your precious Cary. My prayers are for your comfort and peace as you walk this difficult road.

Jane Beeksma

Dearest Brenda, Per and Beau,

How can we possibly express our deep sorrow and regret in the passing of your beautiful son Cary. Please know that we are thinking of you and love each one of you dearly. We are sending you our love, support and strength across the ocean and of course HUGE hugs and comfort. We wish we could be with you…

Please know that Cary is with you in spirit and that you were the most awesome family he could have ever wished for! It sounds as though he was an incredibly kind and smart young man, a job well done from you both. The obituary you have written of his life is truly beautiful. You are such wonderful people and very much loved by many!!

I do hope you get this. xoxo

I need your address please. My email address is daenalee1@yahoo.com.au

Per, Brenda & Beau,

We are so sorry for your loss. It is unimaginable and we are grieving for you. Cary and all of you were a wonderful part of a very joyous time in our lives; that we won’t forget. Last time we heard Cary was going Abroad to travel and enjoy. I am sure he did so and much more. We will always remember Cary as the smiling, charming, talented young teenager; a good friend who had an extremely loving, caring and supportive family. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Hugs to you all,

Love,

Dave, Lisa, Charlie & Sarah

Beaulieu

Dear Brenda, Per and Beau,

We were very saddened to hear of your loss of Cary. He will be in your hearts forever. We are thinking about you at this very difficult time.

Veronica Fifer, Jos and Neil Jonkers

Hello Per:

After reading about the untimely death of your son, Cary, I wanted you and Brenda to know how sorry I was to learn of this tragedy. I hope that you will be surrounded by loving friends and family during this difficult time.

Sincerely,

Terry Lauder

Per, Our deepest sympathy and condolences for your loss.

Sincerely; Jim Bateman & Deb Parker

Heartfelt condolences to you Per & Brenda & Beau.

Per I am so sorry for your loss. This is a parents worst nightmare! My thoughts are with you and your family.

Ken McClennon

Dear Brenda and Per, family and friends,

You are in our thoughts. We wish you love and peace.

Brenda, Diane and I are so sorry to hear about your the loss of Cary. The loss of any child is devasting and more so for someone like you who is so full of love. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Diane and Yale Schachter

Dear Per,

Words alone can’t erase the pain of losing a child but take comfort knowing that your many friends past and present share in your family’s grief and offer our heartfelt condolences.

Mark

So sorry to hear the tragic news – thinking of your family in this very difficult time.

Dear Brenda,

I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss. I remember the love, admiration and pride you expressed when updating me of your sons’ accomplishments. May there be comfort in knowing that Cary will always be remembered and cherished.

My thoughts are with you.

Norine Wilson

Dear Brenda and Family ,

We are so saddened for your tragic loss. Our warmest thoughts are with you and your family at this time. Your loving memories will give you strength and always be with you.

Thinking of you,

Your cousin Peter and Debby

We are so sad for your loss. Words never seem to be adequate at a time like this other than to connect us , and to share in your grief. We are so sorry.

Our thoughts and prays are with you all at this very difficult time. Cary was a sincere and loving young man.

Per, You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time.

Ken and Jennifer

Kaere Per,

vi är förkrossade haer. En omaetlig sorg har drabbat dig och familjen. Svens barn har graatit i min telefon.Hoppas att du kaenner vaara varma tankar och det stoed vi kanske kan ge genom att skriva till dig.Jag skriver ett brev snart naer allt lugnat ner sig lite och jag kan taenka lite klarare. Vi alla Sterners vill plantera ett traed till Carys minne.

When someone is taken from us they are never truly gone for they live forever in the hearts and minds of those they loved and of those who love them. Hold those memories close.

Our deepest condolences to the Asplund family in this difficult time. Stay strong. Be good to yourselves and each other.

With Deepest Sympathies,

Craig and Monica

Dear Per, Brenda, Beau, Family and Friends,

Cary was an amazing young gentleman and he will be deeply missed and never forgotten. We are all grieving with you and are all deeply saddened by your loss. I am unable to attend tomorrow but Sydney and Elliot will be at the service.

Please know you are in my heart and I am sending you my deepest sympathies.

Mary Boyes

When I think about Cary, a smile comes to my face – always laughter and smiles and carefree. Cary and I were in playschool together at Sunalta with Mrs. Ginnie O’Brien-Kelly – always learning and singing and climbing. When we reconnected at Western he had not changed – always alive and social and caring. We were drawn to him and we will miss him.

Dakota

Dear Per, Brenda and Beau.

My thoughts are with you all and I hope you will find peace and strength to carry on.

Sincerely,

Ann-Sofi.

Dear Per, Brenda and Beau,

We are so sorry to hear of your loss. It seems impossible. I remember, especially, our time in Spain. It was time of adventure and exploration and I will treasure the memory.

Our deepest sympathy,

Denise and Joey

Per and family:

My deepest condolences. Our thoughts are with you in this time of grief.

Leo

My deepest sympathy on your family’s sudden tragedy regarding Cary. Mike Markiw phoned to let us know. I don’t think I ever met Cary but I remember fondly our talks going to Churchill, Manitoba. Brenda was pregnant with Beau and Lorraine was pregnant with Dominic (and to think, we both at that time predicted we would have girls!) I do remember your telling me about and showing me pictures of a young Cary and how proud a father you are.

There are no solutions to this tragedy; time and each one must make his own peace. Our whole family sends our condolences to you, Beau and Brenda.

Sincerely,

Gabriel and family

Per, Brenda & Beau

We were saddened to hear of the loss of you son Cary. We can not imagine what you are going through at this time. What we read about Cary he was a wonderful person. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Len & Vicki Dueck (nee Walin)

I am so incredibly sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your son Cary and wish to extend my sincerest sympathies. Words can not express how deeply I feel for you Brenda, Per and Beau. Cary’s passing will leave a tremendous void that can only be filled with loving and cherished memories; try to hold onto them during this most difficult time.

With heartfelt sadness,

Lisa Preston

Per:

Shelley and I were crushed to hear of the loss of your son Cary. We will keep you and your family in our hearts and prayers.

Paul Mortimer and Shelley Bakus

Per & Family, Our heartfelt condolences for the loss of your beloved Cary. Ou thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this most difficult time.

Per, Brenda & Beau: Words cannot adequately express the sorrow we feel.

We wish you courage and strength to deal with this absolute tragedy. Our thoughts are with you constantly.

Dear Brenda Per and Beau

We are so sorry to hear of Cary’s passing and just so hard to belief. We cherish our memories of you all, during our trips with the soccer team. We remember Cary as a quiet, intelligent and good person. Our hearts and prayers are with you. Love Susan, Don, and Gabe Ramsay

John and I are both deeply sadden by the news of the death of your son. Please accept our condolences and know you’re in our thoughts and prayers.

I wish to express my heartfelt condolences to Per and family on the sudden loss of Cary. I knew Per from working at the CBC many years ago. I pray that in this time of grief you will be strengthened and find peace.

Per,

I’m so sorry to hear about Cary. It’s hard for me to find the words, but it’s like a knife to my heart when these things happen to the young. Just know that my thoughts are with you and your family.

Dear Per, Brenda and Beau

I had the opportunity to meet your son Cary on a recent trip to Halifax and had heard many good things about him from our son, Jordan. Jordan appreciated his good humour and easy-going nature and was excited about him joining the soccer team. Our heartfelt sympathies are with you and your family during this time of unimaginable loss and grief. Sincerely, Glenda & Len

Dear Brenda,

This comes from Camrose. Although I have not had the chance to meet your son Cary, I heard so much about him from my boys, Chris and Aaron. They are the Roofers he worked for last year and was to resume work with next week. Chris, in particular, will miss him dearly. He saw him as a friend with whom he enjoyed several outings outside work. They shared many similar interests in snowboarding, moutain climbing, and music. Both my boys are in complete shock, as you and your family must be. As a mother, I feel your pain and pray for God’s comfort to help you go on. From what I heard and read about Cary, he touched many people in his short life. He was a real gift. My sincere condolences on this awful loss.

Dyane Gagnon

There are no words to describe the loss of Cary to this world. He was one of the most genuine, caring, funny and smart guys I have ever had the pleasure to meet and be friends with. I have so many great memories with Cary from skiing, hockey, dinners, road trips to just spending time with him in general. No matter what Cary was doing there was a smile on his face and he would enjoy it to the fullest. Cary will be greatly missed and I feel blessed to have known him.

My thoughts and prayers are with Beau, Per and Brenda

Stuart

Per, Brenda and Beau,

As neighbors, we wanted to offer you our sincere condolences.

Dear Per

It is with great sadness that we learned of the tragic loss of your son, Cary. Darrel & my deepest sympathy goes out to you, Brenda, Beau and the rest of

of those close to you. You have suffered the worst thing that can happen to a family. May wonderful memories help to soften the pain. You will be in our thoughts as you face the challenges of the days ahead.

Sincerely Eleanor & Darrel

Per, Brenda and Beau,

My heart goes out to you and your family. My sincerest and deepest sympathy and condolences in your loss, you all are in my thoughts at this very sad time.

Per, I was so shocked to hear about Cary’s tragic accident. My condolences to your and your family.

Tom Hansen

Per,

My condolences to you and your family on the tragic loss of your son Cary.

With sympathy,

Charlie Hansen

Per, my heart goes out to you and your family during this horrific time.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,

Your pal, Terry

Wishing words could bring you comfort, hoping your memories of Cary keep him with you.

Thinking of you,

Kevin Simpson and Pam Woodall

I was so sorry to hear what happened to Cary this past week. Nothing I can say will make this devastating event any easier to bear but I wanted you to know I’m thinking of you all. Cary is the only child whose name I recall from my first year in Sunalta, when he introduced himself as, “I’m Cary, as in Cary Grant”. Who could forget that? I remember him well as a wonderful student and friend to everybody. He’ll be missed.

Sincerely,

Deirdre Richardson

Carey was one of Lauchlin’s most cherished friends and one out of that bunch of ruffians that Anne and I never tired of. Carey the quiet achiever, a leader on and off the pitch, and that polite good looking boy who always was willing to spend a minute to humour the myriad of questions from the ‘parents’ on the details of that day’s or night’s planned activities. He was part of the fabric of the neighbourhood and is already profoundly missed. We are devastated on the loss of such a promising young man – his passing just reminds us how precious those damn kids are no matter what shenanigans they may get into as well as how fleeting life is. Our hearts are heavy and full of compassion for you all – we wish we were able to join in the celebration of a wonderful, albeit short, life. Much love from the Toms family (Sydney Australia).

Per, Brenda and Beau, our deepest condolences on your loss of Carey. our hearts go out to you all.

The Frislev family

Dear Brenda,

We are so very sad for you and your family. Please know we are holding you in our hearts and minds and hope that helps in some small way. Your great aunt Elinor sends her love and deepest condolences. We will all be thinking of you at this deeply painful time.

Much Love, Your cousin Valerie

My sincerest condolences for your loss.

Gregory Kenny

Member IATSE 212

Dearest Per and Family,

Our hearts are broken along with you. Our deepest sympathies along with our prayers to you and your family.

All our love dearest Per

Anisa and Robert

Per, my heart is broken for you and your family. Please know there are many of us thinking of you and grieving with you.

Sue Hutch

No words could ever adequately convey our profound sense of sorrow upon learning of Cary’s passing.

We send you much love & our prayer that all such sentiments provide the support you and your extended families will need in the days ahead.

Dear Brenda, Per and Beau: ADAM, Andrew and I would like to extend our deepest condolences on the very tragic and untimely passing of Cary.He was a great kid and will be missed by many. May God give you strength in this painful moment of grief.You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Per, my heart aches for you and your family. I hope your fond memories of your son will bring you some comfort. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Per, most sincere condolence to you and your family at this time. I can’t imagine your grief…Strength and power to you through this time, and always, my friend….

My Dear Per and Brenda,

My heart breaks for you and I can only hope that a prayer for Cary, you and your family will bring some comfort. I cannot imagine the pain of loosing my son, so the news of your loss struck very hard and offer you my deepest sympathies and support. If there is anything I can do for you please do not hesitate to call me and Kim.

Always your friend

Douglas Berquist

Brenda, it is always so difficult to know what to say at a time like this. Cary was a great guy and you will be hearing that sentiment told in many different ways by many different people. Keep those thoughts and stories in a safe place close to your heart. Then in the weeks and months and years to come when You, Beau or Per are feeling the pain of your loss you can pull them out to help replace the tears with a smile.

John & Gjoa

Dear Per and family,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours during this most difficult time.

Sorry to hear about your loss Per, if you need anything let me know.

Again, sorry for your loss.

Per, I’m so sad for your family’s terrible loss of your son. The fact that my daughter is exactly 3 months older and always on the road, brings even the thought of losing one’s child really close to home and too much to bear. May you find the strength and courage. I know I speak for your many movie teamster friends in offering our help if there’s anything we can do.