Condolences
Dear uncle Tom,
I am feeling sad that you have left us, but more joyous that you are now in Heaven with Jesus. You are now with all our family members that have departed before, but l am most happy to know you are with Jesus and my dad. I saw there was a special relationship between you and my dad, and you always showed a great fondness towards Sandra and me. Thank you for that love and kindness. Your were the best uncle anybody could have. Aside from my own father, you were the only man l admired growing up. You were in fact, my hero. All through my childhood I watched you with such admiration. You were strong and athletic, so handsome and charming, kind and generous, and so fun and loving...and ever so patient. I remember you invited Sandra and l to stay with you at your home for the Christmas holidays, and you took us Christmas shopping. You bought us everything we wanted. You took me outside to play with my new zip fly helicopter you had bought me...it was so much fun. But during our stay, l was a bratty handful. I was fighting with Sandra and screaming and crying...l just don't know how anybody could have been so kind and patient throughout my tantrums. Thank you uncle Tom, for your prevailing patience and caring for us so.
You moved out west to Edmonton with your family and my dad decided to move out west too back in 1981, l think it was. I was so happy to be living in the same city again.
Then that fateful day, you collapsed from the brain aneurysm. We all went to the hospital when you were having brain surgery. I was out in the garden desperately crying and praying to God not to let you die. When l heard you survived the surgery l was so elated, but when l saw you lying there with your thin and frail body and your eyes void of the life and love that l knew, my world turned upside down. Where did you go? Who was this man that was impostering my sweet uncle? I was so confused and angry. I was thinking, why did God do this to us? Even to this day I think those surgeons must have botched up the surgery and we should have sued them. So many others have had similar operations and they are all fine, so why did this happen to you? It's not fair, it's not right! I was so distraught, depressed, so furious...even to this day l never could find peace with this tragedy. But someday we will see eachother again and l will ask Jesus, why. Until then, l will trust in Jesus and seek God's will be done, no matter what it is. I've learned true faith has no questions, only obedience. This world is about suffering, sacrifice, and servitide. Our true joy is in Heaven, not in this world, and l take comfort that you are now with Jesus and transformed into your heavenly being. Your suffering, and long and difficult journey is over. Praise God.
I miss you, always have and always will, and
I look forward to seeing you and my dad again, one day.
I love you uncle Tom ♡ truly.
As a kid, one of my fondest memories of Uncle Tom was that he would take my brother and I every Christmas to buy us whatever we wanted for Christmas. As a kid, I thought that was the coolest thing ever! He was always so good to us, always in such a happy mood. Sometimes he would just break out in a song or even a dance! I'll always cherish those memories. Until we all meet again...rest in peace. Sending hugs to my auntie Kay, cousins Shelly and David. Miss you and love you guys! ❤
Your remembrance slide show included my absolute favorite picture of Uncle Tom and me. I'm a little girl, holding his right hand in his wedding photo, but I was so angry that my favorite uncle was getting married! Each of his life events... having children, moving to Calgary, his stroke... only seemed to move him further away. Uncle's life was, without a doubt, complicated, difficult, and challenging. But in the end, it was a blessing full of love, for uncle to be able to bring our family together to say goodbye. My greatest wish is for uncle is to be able to rest in peace and for his family to find comfort as his wonderful legacy.
Love,
Nancy
Reflecting and sharing memories of Uncle Tom this weekend with extended family really put a peace in my heart as we all grieved the loss of a special man. As my uncle’s story was told through different perspectives and generations, I learned some new things about him and what an extraordinary life he lived. I am reminded that we all have a purpose, a story to tell, and the gift of life to live to the fullest no matter what circumstances surround us. That was my uncle and his legacy. You can finally Rest In Peace, Uncle Tom … you have arrived home.
Love, Vivien
I have been estranged from my father for over
35 years. He had a stroke when I was a child
and we never reconnected after that. I often
wondered what was the meaning of it all for
him and us. I mean why would God be so
harsh?
I would eventually learn that the mysteries of
God that play out in the course of our lives are
better understood in the context of eternity.
In the course of time I learned a lot about my
dad through stories and memories. I learned
that he was a good man, he was a dignified
man, a man in his prime and he loved his
family. While his peers went to play, he
worked, for us, and our future. But it would
turn out that God is a jealous god.
On that day, that fateful day, he fell. It marked
the beginning his path to redemption that
would take him through fire.
My dad’s life followed a classic story structure
starting from innocence to optimism, crisis,
struggle, faith, redemption, salvation. It’s good
to know that at the end of his story he found
his way home, and knowing that gives us all
peace today.
Nothing endures in life. All things of this earth
are in a constant state of change. That’s why
God implores us to love him with all our heart,
soul, and mind. Because only he endures. My
dad realized this truth deeply and made Jesus
his singular hope.
Matthew 13:44-46
The kingdom of heaven is like a merchant in
search of fine pearls, who on finding one pearl
of great value, went and sold all that he had
and bought it.
My dad was the merchant of this parable. And
when I see him again he will be in glory.
Until then, this faith that began with his
forefathers, endured through time to this
generation, will continue to the next and
beyond. Thanks be to our God, full of grace and
forever faithful.
Amen.
David Kim
Dear Dad,
As a child, I was amazed by all your talents. You were the king of sports: baseball, soccer, ping-pong, judo, arm wrestling. No one could beat you. You ran a successful grocery store with mom that provided our family with a home along with all of our wants and needs. With your own bare hands, you built an amazing wooden terrace in our Millwoods home and landscaped the whole backyard to make it feel like a park. There wasn’t anything you couldn’t do. Everything was possible in your world.
I remember when I was 6 years old you took me to a parking lot and let me sit on your lap and drive the car. I remember you gave us a rabbit as our first pet. I remember in the winter time you made us an ice rink in the backyard. I remember you always sang to me “You are My Sunshine.” I can still hear you singing it. Your sparkling personality mesmerized me and I was in awe of you.
When I was 7 years old, you had a brain aneurysm. It changed your life forever and from that day forth you went into survival mode, physically and psychologically. I don’t know why this happened to our family, but I lost the dad that I knew. After 1 year in hospital, I still remember vividly the day you came home. Your friends carried you into the house with your feet dragging on the floor, because you couldn’t even walk. They put you on the sofa and I looked at you and I didn’t recognize you anymore. The sparkle in your eyes were gone. Your smile disappeared. We looked at each other like strangers. I think you even told me to stop staring. I lost you that day, 42 years ago…. and today I’m losing you again. I feel like I’ve lost you twice in my life, so I have double the pain in my heart.
Dad, although it was short, but sweet, I thank-you for giving me a wonderful childhood. Thank-you for praying for me and my family everyday of your life. Thank-you for sharing daily bible verses during my visits in Canada. Thank-you for giving me life.
May you rest in peace with our Heavenly Father. My hope is to see you again with that sparkle back in your eyes, a smile on your face, and peace in your heart.
Love always,
Your one and only daughter,
Shelly
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